Summer is here! My future should therefore involve days at the pool, sweating profusely on public transport and adopting a more scantily clad fashion.
Crop tops are really hitting, and as a plus size woman, I’m so into this trend. Who doesn’t like to feel the sun on their back? (Don’t forget the sunscreen!)
Honestly, learning to embrace crop tops has been a really rewarding experience as it has helped me make peace with my not flat stomach.
Watch Mamamia’s Clare Stephens review non-family fashion. The message continues after the video.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to have a flat stomach. I grew up in the early 2000s, when Paris Hilton was a sex symbol, Raven-Symoné was considered fat, and the Olsen twins were fashion icons.
It was the era of low rise jeans and singlets that ended at the navel. I was plump, full of hormones, and nothing like Mrs. Hilton – and that made me feel completely out of fashion at the time.
Fortunately, I grew, but I did not become less plump. But I learned to appreciate my body and fashion. Something I’ve learned over the years is that if there’s a part of your body that makes you unhappy and scares you, you need to embrace it and be kind to it.
It sounds pretty abstract, but what I mean by that is start finding ways to appreciate the part of your body that you feel least safe about. Stop letting that inner voice constantly criticize her.
If you don’t like your arms, find an activity you like that involves using them. Maybe it’s tennis, stretching, or just reaching for the TV remote!
It really doesn’t matter, just find a way to see the value of your body exactly as it is, stop hating yourself and focus on how it actually works for you.
I hate to be corny, but loving yourself a little more is a good place to start.
Find clothes that make you happy. Maybe it’s a sparkly long-sleeved shirt that makes you realize how gorgeous your arms look wrapped in sequins and make you feel sexy (I’d recommend the Dyspnea label if you’re looking for said “cut”). Find a way to appreciate and accessorize the part of your body that you dislike the most.
Believe me, if you do this, over time you will start to feel better and better.
In my early twenties, I started to really hate my stomach because it wasn’t flat and had the ability to bulge on all types of clothing. Basically, it didn’t look anything like Lara Bingle’s stomach, so it wasn’t good enough.